Review Fix chats with Dr. Charlotte Laws, who discusses her new memoir, â€œRebel in High Heels,â€ which chronicles her relationship with pop icon Tom Jones, as well as how she took down the kingpin of “Revenge Porn” and the many reasons why sheâ€™s one of the â€œfiercestâ€ women in the world.
Review Fix: What was the writing process for this book like?
Dr. Charlotte Laws: I spent three years writing Rebel in High Heels. It required a great deal of research because accuracy is important in an autobiography. Luckily, I am one of those people who never throw anything away. With respect to Tom Jones, I had mementos from our time together: backstage passes, a handwritten diary and photos. Two weeks after our first date in March 1979, I returned to the hotel suite and discotheque where Tom and I had been. I took pictures. This enabled me (some 35 years later) to be accurate in the book about colors and furnishings and bring the experience to life for the reader.
The manuscript was originally 800 pagesâ€”too long for one book. I knew it had to be made into two or three volumes. About this time, I was fighting a very public battle against the kingpin of revenge porn. He was hacking into victimsâ€™ emails, stealing their nude pictures and posting them online. His devotees were bombarding me with computer viruses and death threats. A stalker even appeared at my home. I worked with the FBI to nab this guy (he pleaded guilty and awaits sentencing). I also helped legislators pass anti-revenge porn bills. Twenty-four states currently have laws in place, and a federal bill will be introduced soon. I eventually wrote an article about my revenge porn fight. It went viral, and I was named one of â€œthe 30 fiercest women in the world.â€ This frenzy of activity led to phone calls from publishing houses and literary agents; they were interested in a book about my life. It was good timing since I already had those 800 pages.
Rebel in High Heels is about my experience as the Erin Brockovich of revenge porn, but it also details the first 22 years of my life, including my relationship with Tom Jones. It is 300 pages long.
Review Fix: What originally attracted you to the music of Tom Jones?
Laws: This may surprise you, but I have never been a â€œmusic person.â€ I donâ€™t listen to CDs. I donâ€™t go to concerts. I donâ€™t listen to music, ever. I prefer talk radio if I am in the car and cable news if I am passing time in front of the TV. It is ironic that I fell for a singer. Tom has an amazing voice and I consider him to be the most talented entertainer in the world, but I was attracted to him due to what he said, not what he sung. I became interested him at age nine when I saw him interviewed on Johnny Carsonâ€™s â€œTonight Showâ€ and when I watched him converse with guests on his ABC show, â€œThis is Tom Jones.â€ He seemed like such a sweet guy. He had a terrific sense of humor, and I liked his rhythm or timing (the way he moved his hands and head, and the way he walked and spoke) I have come to realize that this â€œtiming factorâ€ is what attracts me to someone. For example, I saw a video interview of my husband at a dating organization, and (just like with Tom) I fell for him before we met. I loved his movements, the way he talked and the things he said. I asked him out and was ready to get married two weeks later. We have been together for 21 years.
Review Fix: Why do you think you stayed a part ofÂ Mr. Jonesâ€™ life for so long?
Laws: I think I was lucky, in part, because I was his â€œtype.â€ He might say he has a wide range of taste when it comes to women, and no doubt this is somewhat true. However, I believe he has a preference for short, blonde women. Men often go for women who are of the same physical type as their mom. Tomâ€™s mother was short, blonde and feistyâ€”just like me. I had the honor of meeting her a couple of times; she was a very special lady.
Also, Tom knew I was in love with him and cared about him as a person. My affection had nothing to do with his fame, money or singing talent. I came from a wealthy â€œold moneyâ€ family in Atlanta, so riches were unimportant to me. Plus, I was friendly with tons of sex symbols and entertainers by the time I was dating Tom. I had no romantic interest in them. Tom knew he was special.
Review Fix: How is your life better because of Tom Jones?
Laws: He helped me become the strong woman I am today. I was not always confident. I felt inferior as a child and teenager.
When I was young, the whole â€œbeing in love with Tomâ€ thing was embarrassing. Everyone knew. I was taunted by family and friends. Fourth grade classmates wrote mushy love notes signed â€œTom Jones.â€ They stuck them in my desk at school and laughed at me when I found them. Bullying and public humiliation exacerbated my already low self-esteem. I viewed myself as not all that pretty and as overweight (I was probably ten pounds more than I should have been). I never thought I could date Tom.
Everything changed when I went to my first concert at age 16. I did not attend for the music. In fact, I knew nothing about the artist, Jerry Lee Lewis. I only went because I had read an article which revealed Tomâ€™s favorite performer was Jerry Lee. When the show ended, a man named JD asked if I wanted to go backstage. I nonchalantly replied, â€œSure.â€ It turned out Jerry Lee wanted to go on a date with me. I declined.
JD grilled me afterward. He wanted to know who I found attractive, throwing out the names of popular sex symbols of the time, such as John Travolta, Robert Redford, and Sylvester Stallone. I said I had no interest in them. JD was baffled and asked, â€œIsnâ€™t there anyone?â€ Although hesitant, I revealed my interest in Tom. JD boosted my self-esteem. He said, â€œYou could go out with him, young lady. You are beautiful, sweet and smart. Of course, heâ€™d be interested. After all, Jerry Lee is interested, isnâ€™t he?â€ This made sense. I bolted from the building with new-found confidence and a desire to somehow meet Tom.
I had to teach myself how to gate-crash in order to get past security and put myself in Tomâ€™s presence. Believe it or not, I am listed as the fourth most notorious party crasher in the world, beating Bill Murray (#6) and Queen Elizabeth (#14) and the Salahis (#15). Celebrities sneak into events more than the average person, and many of my humorous party crashing adventures are revealed in Rebel in High Heels.
I embarked upon a number of â€œparty crashingâ€ shenanigans in an attempt to meet Tom. Many failed. All are detailed in the book. My first real conversation with Tom was in a hallway at Caesars Palace in Las Vegas. In order to get his attention, I pretended to be a showgirl. I wore outrageous attire: sequins, feathers and silver boots. I â€œaccidentallyâ€ came upon him when he was walking from his suite to the dressing room. (In truth, I had bribed a bellhop to give me information about the path he took to the dressing room.) Tom and I chatted in that hallway. He seemed interested, but he did not ask me out. I restarted my shenanigans a year later when Tom was performing in Fort Lauderdale. This time Tom invited me to join him for dinner, and our three-year relationship began. I was 18 years old. It was a Cinderella story. He was my first boyfriend.
Dating Tom increased my self-confidence. After all, he was my â€œdream guy,â€ and I had been thinking about him for ten years prior to our first date! He and other entertainer friends helped me escape emotionally from the snobby, money-obsessed society in which Iâ€™d been raised. Entertainers became my substitute family, so to speak. Plus I had endured a great deal of tragedy in childhood with my momâ€™s suicide, my brotherâ€™s death, and my fatherâ€™s verbal abuse. Surrounded by the love and support of entertainment friends, I was better able to explore who I was as a person and what I wanted to become. I credit Tom for helping me with that journey.
Review Fix: How do you want this book to affect people?
Laws: Mostly my book is about inspiring readers to live in the bold zone. The bold zone is that area past the comfort zone where fierceness resides. It requires showing up in life, pursuing ones dreams and becoming a relentless force of nature. Perseverance is the key to success. If I had given up after one, two or ten failed attempts, I would never have dated Tom. I would not have defeated the kingpin of revenge porn. I would not have a Ph.D. or have been elected into political office. This book (and my previous books) would never have been published, and I would not be married to my wonderful husband.
I say to my readers, â€œMay the fierce be with you.â€
Review Fix: What’s next?
Laws: It looks like I will have my own television show. It is in development with a network; unfortunately, I am not at liberty to provide details. I can only say that my four years on the NBC show, â€œThe Filterâ€ were unbelievably fulfilling, and I look forward to returning to the airwaves. I strive to educate, entertain and hopefully inspire.
I encourage everyone to be a Rebel in High Heels.